I think your experience is probably reflective of the limitations of online-only audiology service provision. The reason why no audiologists will see you when you’ve purchased hearing aids elsewhere is because the hearing industry has decimated the value of standard clinical services by offering them for free or at very low cost in order to get more footfall and sell more products.
If people want cheaper hearing aids, the only way it’ll happen is if people stop going to corporate chains for free services. The cost of these services and all the marketing is in the cost of the devices.
If you want a clinician who is more interested in your personal hearing success consider an independent. They can provide superior and personalised clinical care and are often more invested in your success because it has a greater effect on their lives and livelihood then may be the case in businesses with high employee turnover.
Clinicians need to be able to charge a reasonable amount for their clinical services because they can never compete on device cost with manufacturer-owned clinics. Seek out someone who doesn’t offer free services. You might find them to be a lot more cost effective because they don’t spend most of their time working for free.