Your suggested response is perfect for reasonable adults, but after having had run-ins with her before, and carrying a grudge (me), I opted to keep my mouth shut and let my wife deal with her.
Fortunately, my wife finds her to be friendly and thorough with our dogs, and the nearest other vet we trust and are willing to afford, is about 30 miles away (round trip).
Do you remember the old adage “In every successful marriage, one or two things go unspoken every day”?
Re aspirin, started off with that 40+ yrs ago for Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA), but quickly found it ate holes in my stomach at any dose, leading to diagnoses of various stomach ulcers. Moved to Naproxen (for too long) which caused intestinal bleeders (& anemia). Each subsequent RA med eventually failed until trying Rituxan (infusion) which resulted in complete remission of RA for 3 yrs & counting. It doesn’t work for everyone - it didn’t help my RA daughter.
I often wonder if any of the long-term meds I used for RA increased my hearing loss or caused the full-range tinnitus I now have.
I find most times that a severe and profound hearing loss is more difficult than being deaf. At least people seem to understand deafness but to be someone that can hear sounds but has difficulty with understand speech just is not recognized and chastised for not listening. My hearing loss isn’t common, I can hear sounds, be it is.out of tune sometimes. But I can’t recognize that someone is talking much less talking to me unless they get my attention first. Then I need to be able to see their lips too. Hearing aids are great but not prefect. Modern aids are much better than even 5 years ago. But they aren’t like glasses.
After reading your bio here, I have to wonder if we’re brothers (grin).
My formative years were on the farm, small school, IT user support, uncomfortable in groups of much more than 3, USAF weather man which usually meant working alone or one-on-one, prefer communicating via email/texting, although that may because of difficulty understanding spoken words, now live in quiet suburb and hated previous years living in a mid-sized city. Avoid travel and social situations.
Other than infrequently feeling alone, don’t know that I’m missing much - am happy in my own skin.
Yeah @Toyman1… My only experience of medication having an adverse effect on my hearing was Covid vaccine, twice times, immediately after vaccination, my hearing dived, to almost nonexistent levels, only to gradually return over a week or so, with this in mind, I refused the third vaccine, I didn’t want to tempt fate, and by that time, I had contracted Covid twice… So I reasoned, I had built up a few antibodies, well hopefully enough to stem off, a very serious bout of Covid, although both bouts of Covid, I was ill for 10 days… So, I took the chance! As for other medications damaging your residual hearing, I am almost certain there are some, when my wife had Cancer (several years ago) 5 months Chemotherapy, and 6 weeks Radiotherapy treatment, had a marked impact on her hearing, she ended up with a mild/moderate loss, but that is a known side effect, you are being slowly poisoned! And yes, Aspirin is a very serious drug for over 60’s, it can have serious ramifications for your gut… I believe, I read somewhere, up to the age of 59, you had a 25% or so chance, of contracting, recurring Urinary Track Infections (UTI’s) on a continuous basis, in over 60’s, that percentage jumped to over 60% with long term use of Aspirin… UTI’s are a fairly rare thing for most men, but the odds are drastically increased with Aspirin, Urosepsis can be easily contracted, if you get continued UTI’s often enough, you are shortening your odds with Aspirin! Cheers Kev.
I have some of the difficulties you state. If I can see a person I communicate better. I have trouble with people that feel entitled to talk from another room. That happens at work and home
Very interesting Kev. You just answered a puzzle for me with your comments re being a proficient lip reader. I have a good assortment of Phonak gizmo’s and find them to be helpful but not the magic cure. I would read your comments about being in a crowded pool hall for a tournament and being able to cope. I on the other hand would be overwhelmed in the environment you described. But then I am not a proficient lip reader. Now I understand where your toolkit of skills works better for you.
Me? - I’m branching out into Live Subscribe’s wifi assisted app for the iPhone. A big help at the dinner table in a crowded noisy restaurant.
I would read your comments about being in a crowded pool hall for a tournament and being able to cope.
This environment is routine for someone who plays regularly. It still comes down to hearing only who you need to. The rest is unimportant and concentration on the game is where it’s at anyway. Pool is a great game.
This is an example of how the OP can handle many environments. Don’t worry about the insignificant things.
Yeah @rsinclair123… I do have the “NALscribe” app on my iPhone, as yet I haven’t tried it in earnest in a particularly noisy environment, I do hear pretty well…If anything, I feel totally relaxed in noisy environments, for someone whom suffered with recruitment, in the early days of , I eventually overcame my aversion to loud & noisy environments. Hearing aids in the last few years have come on leaps & bounds, especially with the advent of Bluetooth hands free calling, that was indeed a total game changer! Perhaps I may add, a major endorsement of the Naida Lumity UP aids, for severe & profound losses, these aids, for me at least, are exceptionally good in noise, and I probably hear better than most folks with pitch perfect hearing, in acoustically challenging/noisy environments, if I throw a Roger into the equation, then I can say this for definite… I think the key word here is “Relaxed”, if we are relaxed, we are not stressed, IMO, stress has a major impact on our ability to hear the spoken word, in conjunction with lip reading, and other visual skills, like reading folks eyes or faces, and sign language if my wife is with me, for instance, I can have a full blown conversation in an extremely loud environment, 10, 20 or 30 feet apart, as long as I can see her hands, I can hold a conversation… We humans are extremely resilient, and resourceful, we adapt to whatever life throws at us, now if you look back in history, folks where called by the extremely negative term “Deaf & Dumb” if they had profound hearing loss, with no speech, totally politically incorrect, by todays standards, and rightly so! Yet, here is an interesting fact about sign language, it’s 5 times faster than you can talk, and up to 7 times quicker, depending upon who’s signing… Cheers Kev
One of my roadblocks has been the time it takes me to accept change. I’ve even had trouble with simple changes like new domes. One day I hear better; next day I hear worse.
Perhaps the real factor is stress. I feel like I live in stress. I used to run to control stress. I haven’t learned to run after learing to walk again after breaking my right tib and fib…
I might be inclined to take up swimming then @DaveL not as strenuous as running, and good for your health… In my youth, I would easily run 30 miles, usually once a week, in full kit, 70lb Bergen, 30lb Webbing, steel helmet & rifle… I was super fit, back then, but those days seem like a figment of my imagination I took up swimming again, but I have lapsed the last few weeks, I am going to get back into it, as I felt great… Cheers Kev
kevels55, many medications fall into the category of ototoxic chemicals12 - and if you scroll down to “Non-Steroidal Anti-inflammatory Drugs (NSAIDs)” you will find aspirin heads the list.
This is not to discourage anyone from taking prescribed medications. There is a saying that “The dose makes the poison” - only to point out that many medical professionals do not consider ototoxicity when prescribing drugs, they know the ailment and the corresponding medication and prescribe automatically.
If the patient has good hearing, no problem - they have plenty so if they lose some no big deal. If the patient is hard-of-hearing, they’ve already lost so much it is stupid to worry about losing a little more.
Thank you @BoCat, very interesting article, I had no idea, on the large amount of “Ototoxic”drugs that can potentially cause damage to your hearing, nor had I heard of this Ototoxic term, to describe the wide variety of drugs, that can effect your hearing, and bring the onset of Tinnitus… I am much obliged for your post Cheers Kev
One thing I have figured out is that the more people are talking at the same time, the less substance. So, no sense getting anxious.
That is true for any normal hearing. Sometimes I wonder if we’re not expecting super human hearing with . I mean singling a person’s conversation with 4 others going on at the same time isn’t “normal” hearing.
Wow - I’m impressed Kev! Needed to have Google search handy to interpret some of the terms used such as and recruitment. A good exercise - to understand my hearing disability a little better. And your ability to use sign language when required must be very helpful. Had no idea it worked up to 7 times faster than spoken speech. I just see it on TV when a top political person like Biden is giving a speech, or attempting to!
My wife helps me out using my cell phone set on speaker phone and I still struggle to understand what I am hearing. The introduction of apps like Live Transcribe in the Pro setting is the latest improvement for me when speaking in noise and it cost a fraction of what my latest Phonak hearing aid cost. Mind you I’m coming up 85 now - so I won’t need hearing assists for much longer.
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I took up swimming again, but I have lapsed the last few weeks, I am going to get back into it, as I felt great… Cheers Kev 
Cheers Kev 